I am a 42-year old husband and father. I was an avid computer gamer and DOF, F-stops and the like were foreign to me until my wife introduced me to photography.

I began shooting during the latter part of March 2010 and quickly became addicted to it. I started this blog to share my journey and to learn along the way. Special thanks to my wife Eng who encouraged me and to all my friends in Blogosphere who shared their knowledge and taught me to further this craft.

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for those of you who had send their regards, thoughts, concerns and prayers during my wife's surgery, here is her simple way of saying thank you and to let you know that everything went well.

Dave Q,

Turning a new leaf in life

I underwent a major surgery recently, abdominal hysterectomy or removal of womb. You see, i had fibroid which was diagnosed 7 years ago while i was pregnant with my only child, Ysabelle. Now, to say i menopaused at the prime of my life - i am 42 - is partly true. I said partly as i still have my right ovary intact to produce hormones which will see me through the years - hopefully- until i reach the time when my body goes into natural menopause phase.

One might wonder, why abdominal instead of a less traumatic vaginal hysterectomy or more so the less invasive laparoscopic subtotal hysterectomy. Well, my fibroid has grown so big over the years that the only route it can be taken out is through an abdominal incision. I knew 7 years ago that this day will come. When i had my last ultra sound and found out how big it has grown i knew the only option left for me, surgery. I spoke about it to the hubby and explained about not having the opportunity to have another child again and the possibility of me going through an early menopause in case my two ovaries are not healthy enough to be preserved - he wants another one but it isn't going to be so. It is consoling to know that at least one ovary- the right one - is good enough to stand surgical scrutiny. In a way, talking about it with the hubby before my surgeon even broached the verdict helps. It kinda prepared me mentally, emotionally and physically when the time has come and my surgeon told me what is going to happen. He wants to give me a couple of days to think things over before i commit myself to go under the knife. I don't need time to think about it, the hubby and i were on it for days. I said i want it done and over with and turn a new leaf in my life. A time when i do not have to worry about monthly visitor - though welcome, is undoubtedly being dreaded. Now, its Hakuna Matata - a life free of worries.

I sometimes says ignorance is a bliss but not today, i find knowledge comforting. Being a theatre/ operating room nurse gives me an edge, a big leeway, to know what is about to happen - any complication that may arise, what the expectations are from the moment i stepped into the hospital until i go home. Heck! i even know what will be done to me the moment the knife cuts my skin. Its a good thing though i am asleep or i may just tell them which instrument is needed next...LOL!


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19 comments:

Robin

I'm glad to hear it went well. Best wishes for a speedy and smooth recovery.

Mridula

My best wishes to you both. And a speedy recovery for your wife.

Limar

Oh, I didn't know she was not well :( So glad everything is ok now. Best wishes to both of you :)

Perry

Thanks Dave for posting and thank you Eng for being brave to write this. Hopefully the next couple of weeks will see you though a speedy recovery and good as new. :-) (I know, but we can hope.) Make sure Dave gets you a nice cup of tea......

Sandra

I am happy for you it is over and you did well. I wish for you the same experience I had when i had the same surgery at age 28, i am 66 now, and it turned out to be the best thing for me. it actually made my life easier, since the visitor was really bad for me. thanks for telling us your story and enjoy life.

Mama Zen

I'm so glad that it went well!

Carolina

Dave,
I had no idea that your wife had major surgery, but I'm happy to read that it went well.

Eng,
I think it's wonderful that you told us so openly about this major thing happening in your life. I hope you'll recover quickly. Big hug for you, Dave and your beautiful daughter :-)
And I love that beautiful photo of you.

jennyfreckles

Glad things went well and I wish her a speedy and full recovery. Good wishes to you both.

Scott

So glad you're doing well. We wish you a very quick and complete recovery.

judi

Hello brave woman, I know nurses make the worst patients! I have been on both ends of the knife also. speedy and safe recovery. drink your fluids, do your breathing exercises... no lifting, preaching to the choir with the discharge teaching huh? best wishes. judi

Joyce

Prayers for a quick recovery.

T. Becque

My best goes out to your family.

Tes

Dearest Engtot, it is consoling to know that you still have a healthy ovary left! Good for you, girl. We all need that extra hormone supply. Unfortunately for me, I had a 'total' everything gone! The oncologists were adamant about the total, we had to give in. The form of cancer I had was rare and very unpredictable.

You are so blessed to have Ysabelle. She is smart, talented and pretty. God meant for you to have her, because despite the fibroid during your pregnancy, Ysa came through.

As for this picture, who would have thought this was taken after the surgery? You still look gorgeous! Teehee. Love the hair-do, girlfriend -trendsetter. :)

Hope you're recuperating comfortably. Get well soon, dear friend! Love and prayers from my family to yours! Regards to Dave and hugs to Ysa. Mwa!

Cher

thank you for buzzing me about this post, Dave. so generous of you for always taking time to visit and give free tutorials as well. it is very much appreciated...

Eng, girlash! i was delighted to read your email to the TSS family. like i said, take it easy and try not to move around just yet. so glad you even managed to post this, it just means you are really getting better by the day. you will be back clicking to your heart's content in no time. hurray! ;)

don't worry about not being able to have one more child, God has His own reasons for everything that happens in our lives. you already have Ysa and Dave and i can say they are the best that you'll always be proud of and grateful for...

Ruthi

Dearest Eng,

Glad to hear from you again. I am so happy that everything is well. Now you can relax and enjoy your vacation and hope that Dave is pampering you pretty good. Most importantly, I am glad that you have not lost the other ovary too much less your sense of humor. Always remember that you are in my thoughts and prayers. And patiently waiting for your next photo escapades. I miss your photos.

Dave... thanks for posting this. Keep pampering our dear Eng. Hugs to Ysabelle. Take care all you guys.

kri

dear Eng, best wishes for a good recovery! Hope you have much power to be successful in all you want to do! xoxox kri

Martha (MM)

I didn't know since I'm new here but I do know my friend Eng through Color Carnival and so glad to hear that all went well with the surgery. My thoughts and prayers are with Eng your family.

betchai

Hi Eng, I hope you are getting stronger and better each day, you and Dave are blessed with such a vibrant, smart and sweet Ysabelle, and you three will continue to enjoy each other through the years. I wish you very well, I continue to pray for your complete recovery. I am glad to know that surgery is over now, and that you are on your way to a healthier you, and for you, Dave and Ysa, more "one hobby...one family...." togetherness to come.

love you Eng.

Fotolarsen

beautiful scenery, love the colours and comp.

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